Don't Let Haters Hush You

I woke up bright and early for sunday service today at Sixth Mount Zion Baptist Temple Church. . .I've been a church-going girl all my life but it becomes hard for me to make it a priority during the school year. . .I really am working on keeping my relationship strong with God because everytime I go to church he speaks to me. . .speaking of which the pastor preached a sermon just to me it seemed like. . .

This past week I have been evaluating myself in many ways pretty unsure of if my actions are what caused some of the things that has happened to me last weekend and last week. Today I stopped myself because I realized that I have a lot of haters that stepped into my life or really just showed me that they were hatin on me this past week. I also realized that they have been trying to bring me down and in the midst of my happiness and jeapordizing my well being.

We need to remember that haters will remind you how good God has been to you and no matter how successful you are, how powerful your mind is, they will try to minimize you so they can Maximize themselves. It's funny how I could name out certain people that have recently stepped into my path that are trying to build themselves up by breaking me down. It goes as little remarks about how I wear my hair natural, how not average I am to the next chick, the choices I make to make me happy, it's alot of things that haters loves to chastize me with. Pastor said haters always wanna validate who you are and what you need to be, look like, and how you should live your life, and you know why? CAUSE THEY DONT EVEN KNOW WHO THEY ARE.

I am proud to say that I know who I am and who I have become. I am also trying to improve in many aspects of my life but I have security and a strong relationship with Christ so there are many reasons to praise him each day. . .and if for some reason a hater doesnt want to see me happy and want to smack my smile off my face just because I'm having a good day. . .well poof be gone.

and so I leave you with a some words of wisdom from the queen:

"God puts Haters in your life as a reminder to why you are so blessed to be who you are"

You can now find Friends at 7-11

I woke up thinking about my friends. . .well I lied God came first but after I thanked him for another day Friendship came to mind. Over the years, since high school I've been surrounded with friends but there are only a handful of them that I really call my friend. Have you ever found yourself receiving texts or random phone calls from friends that you hardly talk to? I call those convenient friends.

What is a convenient friend to me? I would have to say the ones that honestly know NOTHING about your life and aren't really interested because when they call, text, or see you they will not ask about you just about themselves. I am a very nice person and if you meet me I can be very likable so I will never turn down a person who wants to be my friend, but If I'm not too fond of you I will keep my distance in a nice manner. I do not call people randomly asking things for myself, or where a party is at if I haven't talked to you in awhile. I find that kind of rude. . .I've met alot of people in my life from all over the world and I know everyone lives busy and separate lives, but just like my mom has always told me. . There is always room for your friends.

I remember when I was a freshman in high school. . .I used to have this big clique that I would be with everyday but if you noticed girls do not get along in large numbers of 3 or more. Jealousy arose and I found myself stuck in the middle of two groups of girls fighting for my friendship. It really became a big mess and one of the girls even had me choose between her friendship and that other girl. I couldn't believe that I was going through this. . . and i also couldn't believe them hoes were fighting over me. I ended up ignoring everyone lol. . .I joined the track team and found my passion. My personality attracts people and never wants them to leave because for the rest of high school I had convenient friends. I left high school with three really good friends who were interested in my life and not a competition.

So anyways, last semester there was a big seminar with HILL HARPER that not enough people went to and he spit some serious knowledge in my head about friendship. He told us that a friend is someone who calls and asks how you are, how's your life, listens, is your real friend. But a friend who calls you because they had something on their mind (which really isnt you) is a convienant friend. That really stuck with me because it's alot of people that I speak to but I don't really know anything about them. . .

I am not perfect, I make mistakes, but I never forget a friend that has truely listened to me, and cares about my well being... and I want to value true friendship so my goal for myself is to become a better friend. . .and leave the convienant ones at 7-11

Blame it on the. . . .Alcohol?

NO. blame it on yourself, for throwing too many shots back just so you can do some ridiculous things you wouldnt dare do if you were sober. lmao.

It's clearly thursday, and if not like any school, Hampton is definitely known for their "thirsty thursdays". It's the day that most students are done with classes and they want to start unofficial 4 day weekend. So like any other thursday morning I go to my 8 am class log onto facebook to check my messages and their in my mini-feed someone status has already said "Feeling thirsty. . .what's poppin tonite?". . .[pause] wait a damn minute. . .it has only been a few hours since the sun has risen and people are already parched for alcohol. But why?
So i will admit that I like to have my drink or two. . .but to wakeup wanting to throw back some jose cuervo is not what's on my mind first thing in the morning.

As an observer all my life, and especially in college, I've watched countless of times girls get dressed to either WALK or park their cars in the harbors to go to someone's kitchen, get drunk or what they call pregame, shake they ass a lil in the living room, yell out on the balcony, then pass out by 11 pm. They are obviously too drunk to go to a party, let alone drive anywhere, and are more then likely vulnerable and in some cases now need ATTENTION. The only problem I see with this scenerio is it happens from thursday until sunday.

Freshman year is for trial and error but I feel like if your transcript gives you enough credits be an upperclassmen, you should NOT be repeating what u did freshman year or doing what u never got a chance to do sophomore year cause your parents finally let you drive the whip down. And ladies if you are 21? why do we still have houseparties? Maybe it's just me, well i think it is just me, but when I turn 21 (May 18th for all u suckas) I will be going to the club, preferbaly Los Vegas, getting myself a drink, putting on my grown and sexy..and being GROWN I will invite my closest friends to party with me at a venue that doesnt look like a CRACKHOUSE. Fortunately my birthday does not hit during the school year so I will not have to succomb to the foolery that happends at Hampton University when its your birthday. But I seem to be running on a tangent. . .

So from thursday to Sunday insecure girls running around the city up hampton, burning up gas, party hopping, just to be seen, drunk. I honestly can name a handful of young ladies that venture across the bridge to meet new people and guys and try out the latest lounges and clubs. It's okay to get a few drinks there. . .but when you run ur mileage up cruising mercury blvd. to look at the same people you've seen during the week. . it gets pretty dry, then you start looking DRY too. lmao (i crack myself up)

I've met alot of people my junior year because I was able to venture out to different schools and I really do encourage girls to leave Hampton some weekends because you can really be missing out on something or even someone. Hampton lacks many things and a social life is one of them

So anyways, what I'm trying to say is if you wake up thursday morning feeling thirsty. . .just drink some WATER!!!

How to become a local celebrity in one weekend

Someone asked me why I havent started a blog yet and of course I told them that I would rather write in my journal but I really cant find that thing in the first place. I bought like 50 of them in the past year and only wrote in them once. I think its time that I joined the blog world. My goal is to really define myself and express myself so that people will learn about the real me. I kinda think that I have alot of personal opinions on EVERYTHING that goes around me and I would like for the whole world to know how EFFED up it could be.

So anyways, I will start with why I officially can't stand certain guys on this campus. My school is predominently female so that makes the 10% of males on this campus feel like they are the hot shit. and here's why. . .of that 10% there are 5% that are downlow or gay so that leave a good 25 or so decent guys to froluck around campus assuming they are celebrities. But guess what? Back in their little small town or suburbs of new york. . .they were NOBODIES, class clows, the slow boy, the nerd, the anything you can possibly think of that will give you the stank face....NOT COOL in HIGH SCHOOL...without coming to hollywood or touching a red carpet...boys on this campus are ego-tripping.

How to be a Hampton Celebrity:
1. Be a male that plays a sport or where's blue and white warm-ups everyday
2. Be a freshman jump-off that is everyone's "little sister"
3. Become a bougie student leader that does nothing but party
4. Pretend like you are a supermodel even thou u are 5'3" tryna stunt in all the fashion shows
5. Wear a weave- whether its knotted, glued, matted, just as long as its long
6. Be a greek whether you are suspended or not
7. Females call yourself lowkey...meaning you lowkey sleep with every guy and you tell them after you are done that to keep this "lowkey"
8. Have an unlimited bank account from the Bank you called "mom and dad". . .then go shopping with it so you can have the latest pocketbook or shoes to stand in the student center for 20 minutes before you have to go to class. LoL

The list could go on. . .but I rather not go there. . .despite the desperate need for orignality on this campus there are a few people that do not fit into the "celebrity status" and please reward yourself if you do not get into the "crackhouse" parties on fridays and the greeks do not know you by your first name...you are truley original and shall keep that til u GRADUATE.

Until I feel the need to splurge, The Queen has spoken.